My wishes for 2018

I would like to wish everybody a wonderful 2018 with lots of health, love, happiness and work. Appreciate more, open doors, build bridges, judge less, love more, share your time and talents with others, listen. Respect differences and others. Sallow your pride when possible and burn bridges when needed. But first of all, LOVE YOURSELF and know that you are important. You may not recognize it but for some people YOU are the World!

For my part, I will visit the people that I love and that are important to me. December brought me something I thought it was lost forever (I will tell you more later in 2018). I will continue to travel and to invest in my beautiful children, they are my everything. They are beautiful, they challenge my patience, they are wonderful young adults and ready for life but they will always be my babies and I love them with all my heart. Sometimes we have our issues but they are my reason to live, my source of love and my pride. I want the best for them and I want them to be happy and proud of themselves.



Ja ik klaag over sirenes, ja ik hou van stilte maar vandaag wil ik aan al de hulpdiensten bedanken omdat ze er voor ons zijn wanneer we ze nodig hebben. Ik wil bedanken aan de sympathieke politie agenten die hun werk met passie en toewijding doen, aan de dokters, verplegers, apothekers, vrijwilligers en administratief personeel die er altijd voor ons is. Aan de mensen die met een glimlach op straat lopen, aan de mensen die altijd klaar staan om andere te helpen. Bedankt om het verschil in ons leven te maken en ons alles gemakkelijker te maken. Ik wil ook aan de mensen bedanken die hun deur openstellen voor mensen die zich alleen voelen, die geen familie hebben of die gewoon met iemand willen praten.
Ik wens ieder van jullie een gelukkig 2018 en nogmaals bedankt voor jullie inzet.

Tradições e boa educação precisam-se

Quando eu era pequeno as pessoas visitavam-se ou telefonavam para dar os “parabéns” nos aniversários. Será que hoje em dia isso caiu em desuso e o que conta são mensagens no Facebook ou no Whatsapp? Todos se queixam da desumanização nos contactos pessoais mas ninguém quer dar ou está na disposição de dar a volta a isso. Um enorme agradecimento ao meu irmão e à minha filha mais velha pelos telefonemas, ao menos dois insistem em mantém a tradição.

Last day at work

Today is my last day at work at Amma Insurances in Brussels. It was a short-term mission and I enjoyed a lot the time I spent there. The job was very interesting, I learned a lot and the colleagues and managers were the best I ever had. Leaving Amma is like leaving a home where I was very happy and where I wanted to stay. Life doesn’t go as we plan but this experience was one of the best in my life. I will miss my time here and Amma is the proof that we can be at work and enjoy ourselves while doing our best to serve customers.

5 Difficult Situations Where ‘Letting Go’ Is The Best Decision You’ll Ever Make

1. When the people you love hurt you

We’ve all been hurt before. We let people in, and they shatter us. So we develop a ‘thick skin,’ as they tell us we should. But there are two different types of thick skin, the good and the bad. The first is when you develop resilience that keeps you strong; you don’t let people’s mistakes shatter you. The second is when you hold on to the fear of getting hurt. So you develop this ‘thick skin’, coated with fear and avoidance, as a barrier to block people out. This will ruin you; to avoid attachments for the fear of getting hurt is to avoid life.

2. When your bad habits turn into poison

We all have bad habits. While sometimes a bad habit is as simple as biting your nails, a bad habit can also turn into an anchor that prevents you from reaching your full potential. The thing with bad habits is that they provide us with comfort, so we just keep going back to them. Our brain tricks us into thinking that we must keep going back because that is the pattern of destruction we have created. But bad habits aren’t constricted to smoking, excessive drinking, and gambling. Bad habits can also be people you keep going back to, poisonous thoughts you hold on to, and self-abuse. In order to finally free yourself of the shackles that bind you to these habits, you must understand that a habit is a cycle. Each time you re-perform an activity, it just gets easier and easier to perform, and it eventually doesn’t require mental effort. So, you become stuck in a vicious cycle. Once you recognize this, you can overcome it.

3. When you put up a good fight, but you lose

It’s hard to let go of something you’ve put so much time and energy into. One of the worst things in life is putting so much effort into something, only to have it turn into ‘wasted effort.’ But what most people do not realize is that effort is never wasted. Sometimes you put everything you have into something, and it fails. But the lessons you learn about yourself and the world around you can propel you forward to even greater things. You must learn how to harness the energy you put into something and use it, along with the lessons you learned, as a catalyst for other ambitions in life. Don’t let the thoughts of wasted effort hold a sour note in the back of your mind.

4. When you fall in love with someone you aren’t compatible with

Contrary to popular belief, it does happen. Your ‘perfect match’ and the person you love do not always have to be synonymous. We are often told that we will fall in love with people we are compatible with; this is the biggest myth. People fail to accept the idea that the person they love might not be right for them because they were taught to believe that love always wins. In a perfect world, this might be true, but this world is far from perfect. Sometimes logic and circumstances get in the way. Sometimes you love someone, but they just aren’t good for you. So take a good, hard, look in the mirror, and tell yourself to leave before it hurts too much to look at them.

5. When you enter a new chapter in life

As we grow, we enter new chapters in life. We move to new cities, we leave old friends, people leave us, we grow, and we learn. It’s just a part of how life works. People tend to hold on to what they think their life should look like, in fear of venturing into an unfamiliar chapter. Think of life as your favorite book: some chapters are worse than others. In one chapter someone dies, and in another someone falls in love. You should always look forward to new chapters, because who knows what might happen. The next chapter may be better than the last, or worse, and that’s okay. Imagine reading a book and going through each chapter while your head is stuck thinking about the second one. You find yourself on the last page, and the whole book is a blur. You don’t want your life to turn into a blur. Whether you like it or not, your life will change, and life doesn’t stop to ask whether or not you want to board the ship. So be present and don’t be afraid to make transitions.

Credits: Yasmine Amin / Thought Catalog

Each Person Has 4 Kinds Of Soul Mates. Here’s How To Recognize Them

“A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.” — Elizabeth Gilbert

You find a soul mate, or a spiritual partner, when you least expect it. Soul mates are the people who mirror you, make you aware of your repetitive patterns, and propel you forward on your journey. Being more aware of the different types of soul mate relationships you’ll encounter in life can help us take advantage of those opportunities and develop deeper connections.

Below are four types of soul mates I’ve identified:

1. Healing Soul Mates

These are friends who arrive with intention and provide you with life lessons that clear blocks from your past by mirroring you. Healing soul mates show up by divine timing — exactly when we most need to learn what they have to teach.These friends help us learn how to move forward. A healing friendship exists only as long as your purposes are aligned.

How Do You Recognize One?

When the relationship or friendship escalates fast. This type of friend usually shows up when you are dealing with repetitive patterns and attempting to work through old issues.

How Do You Nurture This Relationship?

Know up front that this friendship might not last. Like all relationships, it only works if the two of you can respect each other’s need for space and come together with understanding at other times. The intense bond can be redolent of a sibling or romantic relationship.The friendship may have lots of ups and downs, but if you can take the good with the bad, this type of relationship will be very fruitful.

2. Past-Life Soul Mates

Because these people might have been a lover or soul mate in a past life, the relationships feel easy and comfortable. The connection is instant. You might feel like you will be friends forever — no matter how much time passes or how far apart you are geographically — and you’re probably right. This friendship will likely last for a lifetime because you will never want to run or hide from these friends.

These relationships can be carefree, but they also shape us. They teach us to trust and believe in ourselves. In this dynamic, both people feel comfortable telling each other anything. Nothing is off limits. You are accepted for who you are.

These are the friends who help you grow into the person you’re meant to be, and have the special ability to propel you toward your destiny without pain or suffering. Often, we try to turn these relationships romantic, but it is usually impossible. There’s a lack of physical attraction or a desire to sustain and protect your friendship.

How Do You Recognize One?

You meet this type of person when you’re truly being yourself. Past-life soul mates appear when you’re in your element and you don’t hold anything back. They always have your best interests at heart and will stop at nothing when asked to help you accomplish your dreams. This type of friendship will last a lifetime.

How Do You Nurture This Relationship?

Stay connected. Check in by email or phone, just to say you’re thinking of them. These people come in and out of your life when you need to be directed, and they always bring love and fun. They help bring you back to your inner desires and reconnect you with your abilities. They are crucial in shaping you into the best person you can be.

3. Karmic Soul Mates

These people, too, are connected to you through a past life. These connections are deep and karmic, and often painful, as they involve ego struggles. Ego pain must be endured, because it is the point. Working through the relationship and learning to overcome suffering is often the only resolution.

How Do You Recognize One?

Karmic soul mates have a twinlike connection. In times of intense emotion, you actually feel what they feel. Often, these mates have been reincarnated and are reliving some karma to break a negative cycle.

How Do You Nurture This Relationship?

Be aware of the energy you emit, and do your best to remove your ego. If you focus on the positive aspects of the relationship, you will draw positivity from this person. Remove your ego by focusing on what is best for the both of you. Do your best to give unconditional love and understanding to your partner. Unconditional kindness will make your soul mate feel at ease.

4. Twin Flames

Twin flames work together to overcome emotional and spiritual barriers. They can talk for hours without running out of things to say. They think alike, finish each other’s sentences, and naturally do things as a pair. This relationship transcends the ego. When you meet a twin flame, you get a sense of wholeness from the relationship. Not everyone meets their twin flame as a lover, but those who do will enjoy this relationship for the rest of their lives.

How Do You Recognize One?

You’ll feel like you have known the other person for many lifetimes, and you will rarely want to be apart. Before long, twin flames start to make collective decisions on everything.

How Do You Nurture This Relationship?

The most important aspect of a twin flame relationship is honesty, but relating to your twin flame feels natural and easy. You can probably easily communicate even without words. When both are completely themselves, twin flames can overcome anything. Every one of these relationships has the potential to end in heartbreak, but each one is also an opportunity to resolve and change your relationship karma. Every relationship that you learn from, and end by moving forward with love, can be marked as a success. It doesn’t have to last forever to serve its purpose.


A arte de ser sábio consiste em ignorar com inteligência

Sábio não é aquele que acumula muitos conhecimentos e experiências, e sim aquele que sabe usar de forma eficaz cada coisa aprendida, e além disso é capaz de ignorar tudo aquilo que não é útil, que não lhe permite crescer para avançar como pessoa.

Viver é, no fim das contas, economizar e saber o que é importante. Agora, parece que a maioria de nós não aplica esta simples regra: segundo um estudo realizado pela Universidade de Harvard, as pessoas têm uma capacidade surpreendente de concentrar a sua atenção em coisas que “não estão acontecendo”. Isto é, nos preocupamos com aspectos que não são importantes, minando a nossa própria capacidade de sermos felizes no “aqui e agora”.

A primeira regra da vida nos indica que a pessoa mais sábia é aquela que sabe ser feliz e que é capaz de eliminar da sua existência tudo aquilo que lhe faz mal ou que não é útil.

A arte de saber ignorar não é nada fácil de aplicar em nosso dia a dia. Isso se deve ao fato de que ignorar supõe, muitas vezes, nos afastarmos de certas situações e inclusive de certas pessoas. Portanto, estamos frente a um ato de autêntica valentia, que vem precedido sempre de uma avaliação inteligente.

Ignorar é aprender a priorizar

Ser feliz é a arte da escolha pessoal. Podemos ter sorte em um dado momento, mas na maioria das vezes a felicidade vai depender de nós mesmos e das decisões que tomarmos.

Para isso, é necessário adquirir uma perspectiva não apenas mais positiva das coisas, como também mais realista, onde o autoconhecimento e a autoestima sempre serão fundamentais.

A vida é muito curta para nos alimentarmos de amarguras e de frustrações: descarregue as suas lágrimas, ignore as críticas e rodeie-se daqueles com quem você se importa e que acrescentem algo para você de verdade.

Como aprender a estabelecer prioridades

Para aprender a estabelecer prioridades é preciso dar a cada coisa que nos rodeia o seu autêntico valor. Não o que pode ter de forma objetiva, e sim o que pode acumular em função das nossas necessidades e desejos. Para isso, é preciso seguir estas dimensões.

Se para você é difícil escolher entre o que é importante e o que não é, é porque você tem um conflito interno entre as coisas que você quer e as que você sabe que lhe convêm.

Existe o medo de “ficar mal”, “ferir” ou inclusive de agir de uma forma diferente de como os outros esperam se nos atrevermos a quebrar vínculos.

Quanto maior o nível de estresse e ansiedade, mais difícil será estabelecer prioridades. Portanto, reflita sobre quais situações e quais pessoas têm valor real para você em momentos de calma pessoal, quando você se achar mais equilibrado e relaxado.

Pense naquilo que é importante para você e não para os outros; não tema as críticas alheias ou o que possam pensar em função das decisões que você quer tomar.
Entenda que priorizar não é apenas ignorar o que nos prejudica, é reorganizar a vida para encontrar espaços próprios para ser feliz.

Ignorar certas pessoas também é saudável

Segundo um trabalho interessante publicado na revista Live Science, os relacionamentos pessoais que causam estresse ou sofrimento afetam a nossa saúde mental. Experimentamos um aumento do cortisol no sangue e na pressão arterial, a ponto de aumentar o risco de sofrermos problemas cardíacos severos. Não vale a pena.

Aprender a ignorar quem não nos acrescenta nada

Não se trata de brigar, nem de usar ultimatos ou chantagens. Saber ignorar é uma arte que pode ser realizada com elegância e sem chegar a extremos desnecessários. Para isso, tenha em mente estes aspectos para refletir.

Não se preocupe com o que você não pode mudar: aceite que esse familiar continuará tendo essa atitude fechada, que o seu colega de trabalho vai continuar sendo intrometido. Deixe de acumular emoções negativas como raiva ou a frustração e limite-se a aceitá-los do jeito que são.

Ignore críticas alheias enquanto você aumenta a sua própria confiança. É muito provável que, na hora em que você decidir tomar distância de quem não interessa, apareça a rejeição. Entenda que as críticas não definem você, elas não são você. Fortaleça a sua autoestima e saboreie cada passo que você dá em liberdade, longe de quem o prejudica. É um triunfo pessoal.

Quando a ajuda é uma atitude interessada: é importante aprender a discriminar essas atitudes de supostos altruísmos. Há quem repita sem parar essa expressão de “eu faço tudo por você, para mim você é o mais importante”, quando na verdade a balança desse relacionamento sempre pende para um lado que não é o seu. Nunca existe o equilíbrio.

Quanto mais leve, melhor. Na vida, vale a pena contar com “pessoas” e não acumular “gente”, portanto, priorize e avance leve: leve de aborrecimentos, raiva, frustrações e principalmente de pessoas que, longe de valer a alegria, só valem penas e distâncias.

A arte de ser sábio é compreender quais vínculos é melhor deixar de alimentar sem ter nenhum peso na consciência por ter dito “não” a quem jamais se preocupou em dizer “sim”.

TEXTO DE Valéria Amado
FONTE A Mente é Maravilhosa