5 Difficult Situations Where ‘Letting Go’ Is The Best Decision You’ll Ever Make

1. When the people you love hurt you

We’ve all been hurt before. We let people in, and they shatter us. So we develop a ‘thick skin,’ as they tell us we should. But there are two different types of thick skin, the good and the bad. The first is when you develop resilience that keeps you strong; you don’t let people’s mistakes shatter you. The second is when you hold on to the fear of getting hurt. So you develop this ‘thick skin’, coated with fear and avoidance, as a barrier to block people out. This will ruin you; to avoid attachments for the fear of getting hurt is to avoid life.

2. When your bad habits turn into poison

We all have bad habits. While sometimes a bad habit is as simple as biting your nails, a bad habit can also turn into an anchor that prevents you from reaching your full potential. The thing with bad habits is that they provide us with comfort, so we just keep going back to them. Our brain tricks us into thinking that we must keep going back because that is the pattern of destruction we have created. But bad habits aren’t constricted to smoking, excessive drinking, and gambling. Bad habits can also be people you keep going back to, poisonous thoughts you hold on to, and self-abuse. In order to finally free yourself of the shackles that bind you to these habits, you must understand that a habit is a cycle. Each time you re-perform an activity, it just gets easier and easier to perform, and it eventually doesn’t require mental effort. So, you become stuck in a vicious cycle. Once you recognize this, you can overcome it.

3. When you put up a good fight, but you lose

It’s hard to let go of something you’ve put so much time and energy into. One of the worst things in life is putting so much effort into something, only to have it turn into ‘wasted effort.’ But what most people do not realize is that effort is never wasted. Sometimes you put everything you have into something, and it fails. But the lessons you learn about yourself and the world around you can propel you forward to even greater things. You must learn how to harness the energy you put into something and use it, along with the lessons you learned, as a catalyst for other ambitions in life. Don’t let the thoughts of wasted effort hold a sour note in the back of your mind.

4. When you fall in love with someone you aren’t compatible with

Contrary to popular belief, it does happen. Your ‘perfect match’ and the person you love do not always have to be synonymous. We are often told that we will fall in love with people we are compatible with; this is the biggest myth. People fail to accept the idea that the person they love might not be right for them because they were taught to believe that love always wins. In a perfect world, this might be true, but this world is far from perfect. Sometimes logic and circumstances get in the way. Sometimes you love someone, but they just aren’t good for you. So take a good, hard, look in the mirror, and tell yourself to leave before it hurts too much to look at them.

5. When you enter a new chapter in life

As we grow, we enter new chapters in life. We move to new cities, we leave old friends, people leave us, we grow, and we learn. It’s just a part of how life works. People tend to hold on to what they think their life should look like, in fear of venturing into an unfamiliar chapter. Think of life as your favorite book: some chapters are worse than others. In one chapter someone dies, and in another someone falls in love. You should always look forward to new chapters, because who knows what might happen. The next chapter may be better than the last, or worse, and that’s okay. Imagine reading a book and going through each chapter while your head is stuck thinking about the second one. You find yourself on the last page, and the whole book is a blur. You don’t want your life to turn into a blur. Whether you like it or not, your life will change, and life doesn’t stop to ask whether or not you want to board the ship. So be present and don’t be afraid to make transitions.

Credits: Yasmine Amin / Thought Catalog

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Each Person Has 4 Kinds Of Soul Mates. Here’s How To Recognize Them

“A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.” — Elizabeth Gilbert

You find a soul mate, or a spiritual partner, when you least expect it. Soul mates are the people who mirror you, make you aware of your repetitive patterns, and propel you forward on your journey. Being more aware of the different types of soul mate relationships you’ll encounter in life can help us take advantage of those opportunities and develop deeper connections.

Below are four types of soul mates I’ve identified:

1. Healing Soul Mates

These are friends who arrive with intention and provide you with life lessons that clear blocks from your past by mirroring you. Healing soul mates show up by divine timing — exactly when we most need to learn what they have to teach.These friends help us learn how to move forward. A healing friendship exists only as long as your purposes are aligned.

How Do You Recognize One?

When the relationship or friendship escalates fast. This type of friend usually shows up when you are dealing with repetitive patterns and attempting to work through old issues.

How Do You Nurture This Relationship?

Know up front that this friendship might not last. Like all relationships, it only works if the two of you can respect each other’s need for space and come together with understanding at other times. The intense bond can be redolent of a sibling or romantic relationship.The friendship may have lots of ups and downs, but if you can take the good with the bad, this type of relationship will be very fruitful.

2. Past-Life Soul Mates

Because these people might have been a lover or soul mate in a past life, the relationships feel easy and comfortable. The connection is instant. You might feel like you will be friends forever — no matter how much time passes or how far apart you are geographically — and you’re probably right. This friendship will likely last for a lifetime because you will never want to run or hide from these friends.

These relationships can be carefree, but they also shape us. They teach us to trust and believe in ourselves. In this dynamic, both people feel comfortable telling each other anything. Nothing is off limits. You are accepted for who you are.

These are the friends who help you grow into the person you’re meant to be, and have the special ability to propel you toward your destiny without pain or suffering. Often, we try to turn these relationships romantic, but it is usually impossible. There’s a lack of physical attraction or a desire to sustain and protect your friendship.

How Do You Recognize One?

You meet this type of person when you’re truly being yourself. Past-life soul mates appear when you’re in your element and you don’t hold anything back. They always have your best interests at heart and will stop at nothing when asked to help you accomplish your dreams. This type of friendship will last a lifetime.

How Do You Nurture This Relationship?

Stay connected. Check in by email or phone, just to say you’re thinking of them. These people come in and out of your life when you need to be directed, and they always bring love and fun. They help bring you back to your inner desires and reconnect you with your abilities. They are crucial in shaping you into the best person you can be.

3. Karmic Soul Mates

These people, too, are connected to you through a past life. These connections are deep and karmic, and often painful, as they involve ego struggles. Ego pain must be endured, because it is the point. Working through the relationship and learning to overcome suffering is often the only resolution.

How Do You Recognize One?

Karmic soul mates have a twinlike connection. In times of intense emotion, you actually feel what they feel. Often, these mates have been reincarnated and are reliving some karma to break a negative cycle.

How Do You Nurture This Relationship?

Be aware of the energy you emit, and do your best to remove your ego. If you focus on the positive aspects of the relationship, you will draw positivity from this person. Remove your ego by focusing on what is best for the both of you. Do your best to give unconditional love and understanding to your partner. Unconditional kindness will make your soul mate feel at ease.

4. Twin Flames

Twin flames work together to overcome emotional and spiritual barriers. They can talk for hours without running out of things to say. They think alike, finish each other’s sentences, and naturally do things as a pair. This relationship transcends the ego. When you meet a twin flame, you get a sense of wholeness from the relationship. Not everyone meets their twin flame as a lover, but those who do will enjoy this relationship for the rest of their lives.

How Do You Recognize One?

You’ll feel like you have known the other person for many lifetimes, and you will rarely want to be apart. Before long, twin flames start to make collective decisions on everything.

How Do You Nurture This Relationship?

The most important aspect of a twin flame relationship is honesty, but relating to your twin flame feels natural and easy. You can probably easily communicate even without words. When both are completely themselves, twin flames can overcome anything. Every one of these relationships has the potential to end in heartbreak, but each one is also an opportunity to resolve and change your relationship karma. Every relationship that you learn from, and end by moving forward with love, can be marked as a success. It doesn’t have to last forever to serve its purpose.

Source: https://theusualroutine.com/2017/09/08/person-4-kinds-soul-mates-heres-recognize/

To my Father

Today is Father’s Day in Portugal and therefore I would like to tell him this:
I asked my Mother to have you as a Father and she said YES. We didn’t have a good relationship but I always admired your intelligence and the way you treated her. I didn’t like when your parents disagreed with you in front of me because you are my Father. I never liked the way you taught me things from school but later I understood why and I did the same to my kids (not giving them the answers, telling them to investigate). You made me think when I just wanted answers. You taught me what life was before you came to Belgium (counting money to meet the ends and making priorities). Thanks to you I also learned to love good music.
I loved your speach at my marriage and when you took me for a walk and encouraged me to be a good Father for my children. I also loved many other things I didn’t and never will say. In spite of the few things that you still do and really get on my nerves, your good things are a lot more important. Therefore I want everybody to know that I am thankful for everything you did to me and gave me. You were and are my secret hero. And yes, I always loved you and that feeling will always stay.

Amber shops in Gdansk / Danzig

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If you like Amber jewellery, then the Gdansk shops are for you.

Head straight for the Mariacka street, which is full of very cute basement shops side by side with an unbelievable range of Amber jewellery from small items to some serious giant rocks that would make heads turn! We spent hours (!!) in this street with my friends, and no, noone left it empty handed….

You will also find more Amber shops along the Motlawa river and some in the main Dluga street.

And wherever you go, remember to negotiate! Every price is up for discussion, especially if buying more than 1 item and the shop keepers expect it so they’re unlikely to be offended.

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